True. Again, knowledge. Problem only in these situations is that the abusive parent will be in denial and not even look for any signs. And let's say the non-abusive parent very rarely listens either because the thought that he or she has chosen an abusive partner, is too horrible to face either.
I've illustrated my childhood and even the abuse later in my book and still I l left out half of it, especially the bits about how it was growing up with my mother because I didn't want her to be judged too harshly by our small town, especially given that she has grown a lot and has stopped being in denial and that's huge and I appreciate that a lot.
Nothing is lonelier than being an abused child, day in day out. It's worse than any prison sentence, because you can't get out of your situation and you have literally done nothing wrong to deserve to be locked into a nightmarish situation. For say 20 years.... Murderers often don't get a sentence that long.
I wonder how much of the abuse (verbal, physical but not sexual) is simply due to parents being overworked and on top perhaps in poverty and without a chance to get out nor to offer their children an education.
How much of that kind of violence could be solved with a thing like a basic living income for everyone?
We can only do so much, have only so much patience and every person is different in their strength, it's unfair to compare us to those who can do the seemingly impossible and still be kind and patient with their children when they're put in a hopeless situation.
I know my limits, so I moulded my life according to my energy. That's why I never had children because I KNEW for a fact that if I had them too early AND had to work, I would end up being just as abusive as my mother. She wasn't abusive because she was a bad person. She was just overburdened...
But isn't that sad, that we have to choose between having a child or not? Or studying at Uni or not?
And what if you have no choice whatsoever and you end up with a teen pregnancy etc...?
A lot has to change, from the ground up. Money and education shouldn't be a privilege any more, they should be as natural as breathing. Add to it also education of our emotions and what healthy relationships are, at an earlier age, and we would suddenly have a fighting chance.
