THANK YOU! Yeah, I've been there myself.

I have one simple rule (for myself): if I'm not entirely sure about something, I shouldn't do it.

I knew for sure I wanted to leave Slovenia for Germany and Germany for the UK. At some point I was sure I wanted to learn how to ride horses or play and sing on stage for my school mates or try out being a wedding photographer.

But I was never sure I wanted children. For many good and perhaps less great reasons.

But one of the biggest reasons were these two:

- I didn't dare to have children before I managed to overcome my scars and learn to be a happy individual (which I thought was unlikely) because I knew for a fact I would mistreat my children as I was mistreated otherwise.

- I wanted to have a chance at an education or career or own business. I find there is nothing worse than a bored woman, at home, with nothing of her own. It spells trouble for her and everyone around her when she's unhappy. I've seen it with my grandma.

The feminine, as you say, Patricia, is not defined by having children. The feminine is strong and alive as long as we manage to stay vulnerable, creative, alive, dancing, singing, loving, bringing joy to this world with her warmth and ability to tap into her feelings, possibly guiding others to tap into theirs.

There was a time (not so long ago, 5 years actually) where I've noticed that I didn't know how to laugh nor cry any longer. I could watch any touching movie but nothing would movie me any longer unless it was a strong disaster.

After building myself back up to who I am (including not wanting children), I've become alive again and able to bring joy to others, not to be afraid of others and feel my feelings.

Which means, I cry like a baby now at any touching scene and I love it because it means "I'm back, Baby!":)