Oh, believe me, I will :)

But I'm still learning right now how teenagers function. Because remembering being one is definitely not enough.

My husband has read a lot on raising children and teenagers and is really great with it all. I'm learning as fast as I can. And his input on his kids, specific to them, definitely helps as well.

But things need time. Often I feel somewhat helpless and definitely frustrated, but that's my issue and I deal with it without taking it out on the kids. They had enough drama for a lifetime.

Luckily the kids have a really good connection to their dad, so he takes them out at times and talks to them, separately.

Me, I'm the new person. They are still weary of me even though they are slowly warming up.

I will definitely have my conversations with his daughter when I feel it's possible. Sometimes I tell her about my own experiences. She will listen but not comment.

But pushing matters is really bad, timing seems to matter a lot. At the end of the day, this is not about me, it's about them. Always.

Only time will also show the kids that my behaviour is something they can rely on, that I never chop and change my moods, that I never let my frustrations out on them, that this is a safe house.

I think right now they are still waiting for "the other shoe to drop", not entirely believing that this calm household is real.

I need to prove myself first, before I can ask of anything from any of them:)

What do you think?