"it's very Greek." LOL
I don't know why that sentence cracks me up, every time. Just like in some movies, when there is a precarious family situation and someone says:"It's very Greek.":)
Tressie, really interesting observation on the differences between rhetorics.
I was being interviewed for a podcast on relationships couple of months ago and it was a lot of fun. On one hand it's nice to just listen to certain podcasts done by one person, like any Mexican ones so I can practice my Spanish.
But I get it what you mean with 'it has to match your rhythm.'
And you seem to have a very dynamic one:)
If you're ever interested to speak about either tech development, especially the importance of data privacy and protection, or bold ideas about the future, then reach out to my husband, another black voice who has to work hard on being heard at all or being taken seriously. But he has this amazing energy! I think you wold love chatting with him.
Actually you can listen to him on a recent podcast on Spotify here:
https://open.spotify.com/episode/2z6XAAyDKu7TOcnxhHNpjV?si=zJxHaCn4SQORCeDDpsUiZg
or look on Spotify for
"Coffee Rants - THE RANT : Data Privacy is a thing, GET CLUED UP and realise WHY! With JB Benjamin"
To be honest, I never thought much about the racial issues because I never had to. As a woman of course I have to deal with the crap dealt to me by our society, but until I met my husband, I never thought about it because to me people are simply people, I always looked past colour.
What was of interest to me in a person are only two things:
1) Are you a jackass or not
2) Do we share similar values and understanding or not
But the problems are there and I'm horrified.
You know, this will sound weird and I hope no one will misunderstand me:
It bugs me that the BLM movement has shifted the way I see my husband. To me he has always just been an amazing person, a great and interesting man. We had a hauntingly similar abusive childhood and against all odds a very similar education. Hence why our understanding and values were so aligned.
But I couldn't deny that neither in politics nor in business people were listening to him (at first) and only after he was proven right (after the fact), he started getting recognition but it's really very blatantly obvious that if he was white or looked white, his thoughts would have had a big influence right away.
Do you know how much time he loses every time?! He is always so ahead of his peers when it comes to tech, that they all think he's nuts, only to realise ten years later that if they had listened to him, they wouldn't have lost their business etc.
It's starting to bug me as well and whereas before I never saw him as a mixed raced or black man, now I clearly see colour. BLM added that colour. Well, not BLM per se, but the circumstances due to which BLM was born out of. And rightly so.
And for the first time in my life (maybe that's karma, LOL), I have to face racism in the other direction now, from black women, as they are offended that "I stole their man".
I can't complain though. I get it. If I was in their shoes, perhaps I would have felt the same, given all the disadvantages black people, and especially black women, have.
But no, a white woman, when seeing a white guy with a black girl, will never feel that something has been taken from her. Not that I know of, not where I come from. But there is no comparison as I said, the situations are very different.
I usually look at a black woman and see beauty!
I envy her smooth skin, knowing that she will very probably look much better than I ever will as we grow older, LOL. So much for vanity...
And then there are those big lips, high bone cheeks, great curves. How can anyone have a problem with beauty? I don't get it. I'm glad it's there. I appreciate it.
And I'm glad there are different ways in this world and as you've shown, Tressie, your way might be much more fun and engaging and worth trying to learn from.
